Family and Parenting: Information For Families

We know how harmful anger can be to us as individuals, and some us may unfortunately know what it can do to family relationships. This very natural emotion can spiral out of control when left unchecked and it may be detrimental to the survival of family togetherness, closeness, to learn about the anger, deal with it in healthy ways, and heal the wounds that have been opened by it.

Anger is natural. It absolutely has positive aspects that can be used for positive purposes, such as ‘bleeding’ a bad feeling and then feeling better from its release. If anger were not natural then we wouldn’t be capable of expressing it. When used correctly anger is a signal to us that something is wrong, a signal that something needs correction. Just as pain is a physical signal.

The ability to sense anger in another person bring us a clue of the approaching anger and gives us a hint to move toward resolve. Though anger can be a trigger for us to find emotional correction, it can also lead to a more complex issues. Unfortunately the more we become angry the more we are susceptible to become angry. It is a snowballing emotion. With persistent anger comes a higher sensitivity to the things that make us angry.

When anger becomes a chronic happening it chokes out other feelings and makes itself the solution to all of your problems. It disguises itself as a cure. When the people we love point out our anger issues, we tend to experiment with repression and this only beckons it further. This only keeps the person from learning other, effective ways of dealing.

Anger in chronic lapses can be brought on by a number of things. Whether it is substance abuse, physical abuse, depression or anxiety, even grief that brings on the angry tendencies they can all be assessed, healed, and dealt with.

Trying to deal with anger inwardly with suppression will only cause resentment, bitterness, and eventually, hatred. To permanently heal the anger you must find the source of the initial anger. Find the triggers. Then it must be stopped where it begins. Finally your anger will never be dealt with until you find the willingness to release it. Three steps is all it takes, but it may be the hardest three steps of your life. All you can do is try, have faith, and know you have the ability to fight that which causes you pain.