Family and Parenting: Information For Families

The timeless movie of a child forgotten when the family leaves for a planned vacation. Home alone. This movie was a comic relief for those parents who have forgotten to pick their child up from band practice or made it ten minutes toward the store before realizing their ten year old was in the restroom.

Though some events can be comical what is to be said about making the decision of when to allow your child to stay at home, alone?

First and foremost you need to make certain of the laws that are currently in place in your state, city, or town before making any decisions. The general rule is that children 12 years of age and older are responsible enough to handle being home alone. But be sure to check with the current laws as this is not a national standard.

You then need to consult the child. If you and your spouse have brought up the issue you may need to ensure that your child is prepared mentally for this responsibility. Some children are afraid of being left alone and it can take longer for some children to get over this fear. Your child needs to be comfortable before it will be safe to leave them alone.

How does your child rate on every day responsibility levels? Are they determined to cause trouble or are do they go out of their way to behave? Consider the priorities of your child before handing them such a large responsibility. If your child still has some growing up to do then allow them to do so before handing over the keys. You can afford a babysitter for a little while longer if it will ensure your child and your home are safe.

Do you have more than one child? If there are children different ages that will be affected by this decision than the age differences, attitudes, and responsibility levels need to be considered. If the children have past issues of arguing, pestering one another, or having role-wars, reconsider your options of holding onto your babysitters number. If age is no problem and the children cooperate nicely then instilling ‘roles’ will be important while you are away.

Be sure your child(ren) knows all emergency information before you decide to leave. Do not allow for mistakes when making such a detrimental family decision.